Reflections are essential for transformation of behaviour, thoughts and emotions. For balance, we need to reflect across the 5-part identity matrix: body, mind, heart, soul and spirit.
We need to continually gather ‘artifacts’, in what can seem like, an archaeological dig. It involves careful, insightful investigation and contemplation.
To fully engage we need to reflect using both or right and left brains. We need to be conscious, logical as well as creative and intuitive.
In reflections, we unravel, analyze, and draw connections through the gathering of knowledge and thoughtful contemplations.
In this ‘earth school’ we are doing our soul-work. With a more cohesive bond between all part of the matrix, we expand the authenticity of our Being.
the looping, helical process
When we reflect on our identity-narratives, we circle through the parts, back to the whole and then back to the parts again. In reflections we look at the key attributes of our identity matrix to bring more cohesive connections and balance.
Reflecting is a repeating, intertwining process of meaning-making. It is shaped more like a helix with accepting and transforming than a circular or only a one-time event.
a process of being open, vulnerable and brave
The space (narrative distancing) between the reader and the writer varies for many reasons — emotions, thoughts, perspectives, genres, styling, and so on.
When I read anything, I see ‘story’ through a mix of the narrator’s camera lens and my own. I may be seeing the writer’s private world coming through her words, objectively, and thus be privy to her thoughts and intentions. Most likely though, that private world is tainted by my own subjective perspectives.
Putting it out there, no matter how much distancing from the words you try to do, takes bravery. Part of you always seeps through. It evokes alternative translation — fodder for all. It requires being ok with some exposure, both good and bad — being less private and more vulnerable.
Ironically, the more I write, the less private I actually want to be. Which is a good thing, because I was pretty shut down. I just started writing and writing. The trickle became a stream and then a river.
Like therapy, the deeper the reflections, the more powerful the transformation and enlightenment. Either way, it takes being open-minded as both a reader and a writer.
Can everyone step out of being private and do they need to do so, to be a writer-in-public?
I can’t speak for everyone in terms of intentions. What I know, though, from my experience, is that the more I read a writer’s work, the less private they seemto be. Logically and psychologically they became more real, more alive.
… and before this stream turns into a river, I leave you with some insight from a master of the prose and his thoughts on writing and privacy …
study me as much as you like,
you will not know me,
for I differ in hundreds of ways
from what you see me be
behind my eyes and see me
as I see myself, for I have chosen to dwell in a place you cannot see